Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner

Borrow live props: This is a bonus for the time bombers, but is also valid for the older singles who wish to find Partner Right who is apt to appreciate their children or grandchildren.

• Borrow a child.  Have you noticed how attractive the opposite sex can be when they’re playing with children?  Take your nephew to the beach or park and have a great time being your genuine self.   Play and have fun.  But be sure the child calls you aunt or uncle or by your first name!  Partner Right may not be there to see you, but a sister or brother could be and want to make the introduction.
• Dog sit.  Take the dog for long walks and romps in the park.  It’s easy to open a conversation with people with pets, and many a couple has met this way.

Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner

What To Do?

Enlist your friends and family: Let your friends and family help you.  Sure, you’ll meet some frogs… but you may meet your prince..ess…  (No reason for all frogs worth kissing to be men!)  I know, it takes courage as well as confidence and age-esteem to do this, but you have to act on your goal.

• Ask your friends to help you.  And don’t be shy about sharing the values and qualities Right Partner must share with you.
• Accept to meet the person who they want to introduce with them.  Double date with the friends who set you up or go out with a group of friends.   Be game to try something new like riding a Segway through the city…
• Find out how others have met.  It can lead to new avenues of ideas.  –  It may be worth testing a dating service or to join chat rooms on line.

Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner

Meet New People

Get out and about: Keep active.  Plan time in your schedule to meet new people and to attend events.

• You’ve envisioned Partner Right.  Where would this person be apt to spend time?  Go where this person would go. If you want to find someone with an interest in art, attend shows.  If music is  important attend concerts, join a choir.
• Mix with others at these events.  Commit yourself to speak with three new people at each event.  Strike up a conversation and learn about the other people in a group.  Be genuinely interested in what they say.  Not only will they find you interesting as a result, but others in the room are more apt to notice you.  It will also reinforce your confidence and age-esteem.

Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner.
What To Do?

Define “Partner Right”: This is the person you will commit to and who would be the parent of your children.  Research your own heart and mind to know what kind of person you want to share your life.

• Seriously think about your own values.  What is most important to you?  Write these values where you can see them regularly.
• What qualities and values are important for this person to share?  You want to share mutual respect with this person and be proud to raise children together.  What qualities and values are essential for this?
• Make a vision board to represent Partner Right.  Use pictures, words and objects such as an opera ticket or invitation to an event, anything that represents an aspect of the ideal person.  The goal is to picture the interests, values and personality as well as any important physical qualities.  Keep this vision board where you see it.   Add to it, and refer to it regularly.  Imprint it in your mind.

Now step out with personal confidence and age-esteem knowing that you and Partner Right will find each other.

What To Do?

So how do you keep your confidence and age-esteem while feeling that age is placing a barrier in front of you?  How do you manage to meet the right partner? – The person with whom you can share mutual respect, trust, support, encouragement, laughter and love?

Take your time: Don’t rush.  A lasting relationship doesn’t just happen.  It develops, and there are stages in that development.  Just as a baby needs to turn over, sit and crawl before it can walk, we need to move forward one step at a time.  It begins with eye contact, moving into the other’s space, and yes even holding hands.  And it happens over a period of time.  It’s still good advice to know someone for a year before making a commitment.  If this is the right partner, it’s a good investment.

Men’s Body Clock

Men don’t deal with the same biological deadline as women, but it seems they do have a body clock ticking.

New research is showing that men, too, would do better to procreate earlier rather than later.  “It seems the fertility clock ticks for men, too,” says the New York Times article by Roni Rabin, Feb. 7, 2007 citing research stating there is an increased frequency of abnormalities in babies born to older fathers.

Men seeking a meaningful relationship are also challenged to find Ms. Right.  And it’s no wonder we have difficulty in this society where dysfunctional and superficial relationships are fed to us in  programs like Desperate Housewives and The Bachelor.

How to pursue meeting Ms. Right with confidence and age-esteem?

Woman’s Body Clock

Did you ever wake up in the morning just before the alarm should go off and lie in bed waiting, knowing that it would ring yet not quite prepared for the noise when it did?

Somewhere in the mid-30’s we wake up to our body alarm in much the same way.  We’ve known it would go off someday, but we’re never really ready for it to ring.  It’s often at this point that we become preoccupied with finding the right partner and beginning a family.  Did I say preoccupied?  Some of us hyperventilate!

As women it’s especially true.  Age suddenly seems to be working against us.  Our biological clock becomes a fertility time bomb reminding us that our ability to give birth is not eternal.  We’re faced with the fact that it’s now or never!   But where is Mr. Right?

Every day is a holiday somewhere in our world!

According to EarthCalendar.net the following holidays are being observed today:

Queen’s Name Day, Sweden
Father’s Day, Taiwan
Independence Day, Bhutan
International Day of the World’s Indigenous People, Australia
Peace Day (End of the Iran/Iraq war), Iraq
Peasants’ Day , Tanzania
Universal and International Affinity Day, International
Saint Mary MacKillop Day, Australia

No matter where you are on the globe, these holidays offer an occasion to begin an AgeEsteem inter-generational tradition.

• Choose a holiday for the coming month from a country other than your own.
• Research to discover as much as possible about how that particular holiday is celebrated.
• Find someone from that country to help you if possible.
• With children and friends reproduce that celebration: make costumes and props, cook food associated with that holiday…
• Invite friends of all ages to celebrate the holiday with you.

Show genuine interest in others:

• Become an active listener when speaking with someone.  Look them in the eyes and show genuine interest in what they say. Participate actively. Nod your head, repeat a word or two in confirmation.   Ask questions. Remain focused on them.

• Keep in mind that everyone is interesting.  It is up to you to find how they are interesting.

• Be prepared with conversation starters.

You will be surprised at how much you learn.  And you will also be remembered as a great conversationalist whether you actually spoke or not.  Most important is that when you are genuinely interested you become more interesting to the other person and it enhances your beauty.

Let your inner essence shine.  Show genuine interest in others.  Be beautiful you!

Live your values: Does it surprise you to find values at the heart of beauty?  Our values are the basis of who we are, our inner essence.  Living in harmony with our values is crucial to freeing our inner beauty and enhancing our age-esteem.

• List 20 values that are important to you.  What couldn’t you live without? – honesty, money, love, adventure, family, harmony?  Prioritize the top 10.

• How are these values present in your life today?  Are some absent?  Are there conflicts between your job or relationships and your values?

• Plan how to build your values into your life more.

Your inner essence, and therefore your beauty, depends on living in harmony with your values.