Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner.
What To Do?

Define “Partner Right”: This is the person you will commit to and who would be the parent of your children.  Research your own heart and mind to know what kind of person you want to share your life.

• Seriously think about your own values.  What is most important to you?  Write these values where you can see them regularly.
• What qualities and values are important for this person to share?  You want to share mutual respect with this person and be proud to raise children together.  What qualities and values are essential for this?
• Make a vision board to represent Partner Right.  Use pictures, words and objects such as an opera ticket or invitation to an event, anything that represents an aspect of the ideal person.  The goal is to picture the interests, values and personality as well as any important physical qualities.  Keep this vision board where you see it.   Add to it, and refer to it regularly.  Imprint it in your mind.

Now step out with personal confidence and age-esteem knowing that you and Partner Right will find each other.

What To Do?

So how do you keep your confidence and age-esteem while feeling that age is placing a barrier in front of you?  How do you manage to meet the right partner? – The person with whom you can share mutual respect, trust, support, encouragement, laughter and love?

Take your time: Don’t rush.  A lasting relationship doesn’t just happen.  It develops, and there are stages in that development.  Just as a baby needs to turn over, sit and crawl before it can walk, we need to move forward one step at a time.  It begins with eye contact, moving into the other’s space, and yes even holding hands.  And it happens over a period of time.  It’s still good advice to know someone for a year before making a commitment.  If this is the right partner, it’s a good investment.

Men’s Body Clock

Men don’t deal with the same biological deadline as women, but it seems they do have a body clock ticking.

New research is showing that men, too, would do better to procreate earlier rather than later.  “It seems the fertility clock ticks for men, too,” says the New York Times article by Roni Rabin, Feb. 7, 2007 citing research stating there is an increased frequency of abnormalities in babies born to older fathers.

Men seeking a meaningful relationship are also challenged to find Ms. Right.  And it’s no wonder we have difficulty in this society where dysfunctional and superficial relationships are fed to us in  programs like Desperate Housewives and The Bachelor.

How to pursue meeting Ms. Right with confidence and age-esteem?

Woman’s Body Clock

Did you ever wake up in the morning just before the alarm should go off and lie in bed waiting, knowing that it would ring yet not quite prepared for the noise when it did?

Somewhere in the mid-30’s we wake up to our body alarm in much the same way.  We’ve known it would go off someday, but we’re never really ready for it to ring.  It’s often at this point that we become preoccupied with finding the right partner and beginning a family.  Did I say preoccupied?  Some of us hyperventilate!

As women it’s especially true.  Age suddenly seems to be working against us.  Our biological clock becomes a fertility time bomb reminding us that our ability to give birth is not eternal.  We’re faced with the fact that it’s now or never!   But where is Mr. Right?