The Age Of Our Soul

We are the age of our soul.

Our soul is our inner essence, the basis of who we are and what we represent in this life.  Do I still have lessons to learn, talents and knowledge to share?  Do I still have places to go and people to meet?  Are there contributions I can make to my neighborhood, and therefore to the world?

If I have a joy for life, love myself and others, am able to influence the life of someone else in even the smallest way, my soul is alive and so am I!  Age is not a factor.  Living is what matters.

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Show genuine interest in others:

• Become an active listener when speaking with someone.  Look them in the eyes and show genuine interest in what they say. Participate actively. Nod your head, repeat a word or two in confirmation.   Ask questions. Remain focused on them.

• Keep in mind that everyone is interesting.  It is up to you to find how they are interesting.

• Be prepared with conversation starters.

You will be surprised at how much you learn.  And you will also be remembered as a great conversationalist whether you actually spoke or not.  Most important is that when you are genuinely interested you become more interesting to the other person and it enhances your beauty.

Let your inner essence shine.  Show genuine interest in others.  Be beautiful you!

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Live your values: Does it surprise you to find values at the heart of beauty?  Our values are the basis of who we are, our inner essence.  Living in harmony with our values is crucial to freeing our inner beauty and enhancing our age-esteem.

• List 20 values that are important to you.  What couldn’t you live without? – honesty, money, love, adventure, family, harmony?  Prioritize the top 10.

• How are these values present in your life today?  Are some absent?  Are there conflicts between your job or relationships and your values?

• Plan how to build your values into your life more.

Your inner essence, and therefore your beauty, depends on living in harmony with your values.

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Not everyone will think that you are beautiful or handsome and it doesn’t matter.  Most important is how you feel about myself.  Tap into your inner essence, your confidence and age-esteem.  That is the key to AgeEsteem beauty – and it’s applicable to every age.

Highlight your physical qualities:

• Admire your face in the mirror.   What are the highlights of your beauty? Is it your eyes, hair, freckles, dimple, lips?  Emphasize these positive qualities.  Let them shine.

• Do the same with the rest of your body.  You want styles that will emphasize your long neck or lovely arms.

• Consider the physical qualities other people compliment you on.  Do they correspond with the ones you identified?  If not seek to highlight them as well.

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Today I use a bit more make-up than in past years and seek professionals specializing in colors and styles.  But the truth is that it’s not necessarily when I am made up to be most elelgant or have just had my hair done that I am most attractive.

When do others find me most attractive?  It’s when I feel happy, doing something I love, with people I care for and making the most of the moment.  It’s when I’m in harmony with the genuine me and my inner essence. – Knowing who I am, loving myself for better and for worse, and feeling confident at the age I am.  That’s what makes me most attractive.

The make-up, clothes and accessories simply enhance my inner essence and age-esteem.

The make-up, clothes and accessories simply enhance my inner essence and age-esteem.

What do you think makes you beautiful?

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Tapping Into Your Inner Essence

I was brought up to believe that beauty is something that you manage.   In our family make-up was restricted to lipstick and mascara and very few in our small town wore more than that.

Whether we were considered pretty or not depended on the person looking at us.  As Mom used to say, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.”  There’s a wealth of truth in that statement.  People see us from their own point of view and make their own diagnosis as to the intensity of or lack of our beauty.   And this goes beyond outer beauty.

It’s when we tap into our inner essence and wear our age-esteem and confidence  that others find us attractive.

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