What To Do?

So how do you keep your confidence and age-esteem while feeling that age is placing a barrier in front of you?  How do you manage to meet the right partner? – The person with whom you can share mutual respect, trust, support, encouragement, laughter and love?

Take your time: Don’t rush.  A lasting relationship doesn’t just happen.  It develops, and there are stages in that development.  Just as a baby needs to turn over, sit and crawl before it can walk, we need to move forward one step at a time.  It begins with eye contact, moving into the other’s space, and yes even holding hands.  And it happens over a period of time.  It’s still good advice to know someone for a year before making a commitment.  If this is the right partner, it’s a good investment.

Not everyone will think that you are beautiful or handsome and it doesn’t matter.  Most important is how you feel about myself.  Tap into your inner essence, your confidence and age-esteem.  That is the key to AgeEsteem beauty – and it’s applicable to every age.

Highlight your physical qualities:

• Admire your face in the mirror.   What are the highlights of your beauty? Is it your eyes, hair, freckles, dimple, lips?  Emphasize these positive qualities.  Let them shine.

• Do the same with the rest of your body.  You want styles that will emphasize your long neck or lovely arms.

• Consider the physical qualities other people compliment you on.  Do they correspond with the ones you identified?  If not seek to highlight them as well.

Choose Clothes That “Do Something For You”

In order to connect with your inner beauty, become conscious of how you feel about yourself in the clothes you wear.

What clothes make you feel exceptionally good?  Have you ever seen a suit that you really liked, tried it on and felt like a million bucks in it?  Clothes don’t make the person, but they do make a difference!

Choose clothes and accessories that “do something for you”.  If you feel exceptionally good in a particular suit or dress, then it does something for you.  It sets off your age-esteem and confidence.  You not only feel attractive wearing it, you become attractive to others!

Tapping Into Your Inner Essence

I was brought up to believe that beauty is something that you manage.   In our family make-up was restricted to lipstick and mascara and very few in our small town wore more than that.

Whether we were considered pretty or not depended on the person looking at us.  As Mom used to say, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.”  There’s a wealth of truth in that statement.  People see us from their own point of view and make their own diagnosis as to the intensity of or lack of our beauty.   And this goes beyond outer beauty.

It’s when we tap into our inner essence and wear our age-esteem and confidence  that others find us attractive.

Reach Out: When we reach outwards, thinking of and doing for others, we have less time to dwell on our self. Being involved in a project to help others gives us better perspective and a meaningful purpose. We grow and learn.

• Ask yourself what talents and interests you have that you are not using. How would you like to use these?
• Look for opportunities to contribute at least one hour every two weeks to a school, charity, social service or club. Ask friends, search the Internet, read announcements.
• Make a commitment to contribute your time and talents as the next step to building this dimension of your happiness. It will also enhance your confidence and age-esteem.

If you want to be happy, just be happy!

Life is too short to loose time complaining. It gets us nowhere. And usually our complaints act as scapegoats for another problem: lack of a personal image of confidence and age-esteem. It’s not too late to change this image.

Reinforce your confidence and age-esteem!

Focus on your qualities. Often it’s easier to see qualities in others than in ourselves. Recognize yours! You have many.

• List your talents, skills and qualities. Don’t be bashful. Pretend you’re writing a recommendation for this person who is you. Keep the list where it’s visible. Read it often and add to it.
• Keep a journal of praise. Write down the praise you receive. No matter how minor it may seem, when someone praises you write their words in your journal. Copy praise received electronically or via the post into your journal. Refer to it as a confidence booster.
• Flash yourself a smile when you pass a mirror and remind yourself of one of these qualities as though saying it to your best friend: “You organize great events!”…

Soon this will become second nature to you as you accentuate the positive and build your own AgeEsteem for the soul.