Set Your Inner Child Free

April 5th, 2018 Comments off

As the days grow longer, spark your curiosity by visiting parks or taking a nature walk, even if only in your backyard. When you set your inner child free with curiosity, you will discover that curiosity is a key ingredient for learning.

It is no surprise that we are more likely to remember what we have learned when the subject matter intrigues us, but it turns out that curiosity also helps us learn information we don’t consider all that interesting or important.

Did you know that those who are curious may also actively seek out challenges and new experiences to broaden their horizons?

Take a journal outside with you. Sketch the creepy crawlers; spiders, caterpillars, grasshoppers, ladybugs, and begin to form questions about each one. How many different types of caterpillars are there? What do they eat? Why are they fantastically beautiful?

Remember that AgeEsteemers continue to ask questions and think critically about the world around them because a curious mind continues to grow, even as the body ages.

The Renewal of Spring

April 2nd, 2018 Comments off

Does winter seem to drag on with its uncomfortable chill and darker days? No matter how long the winter may seem, spring is just around the corner and the days will become longer and brighter.

With Spring’s unique energy you are offered the opportunity to renew parts of yourself that are hungry for growth.

Here are some ideas to let go of the old and make room for the new:

Get some fresh air and sunshine. Consider going for a stroll at a plant nursery and soak in all of the color and scents the flowers have to offer. Visit a farmers market and taste the freshest fruit the season as to offer. Begin to eat your meals outside again and appreciate the sound of a light breeze through your garden.

Celebrate with a family gathering. What a great time to call the grandkids and invite them over for a backyard party; bubbles and all.

Invest in a bird feeder for bird watching. Bird watching is fun for all ages and can be very educational. You’ll be amazed at the family discussions, research and excitement coming with seeing a new bird at your feeder.

Plant an herb garden. A modest herb garden provides not only gardening fun, but also healthy and tasty ingredients for your favorite dishes.

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” – M. Scott Peck

I encourage you see the hints of Spring all around you and renew the parts of yourself that are hungry for growth!

Happy Easter

April 1st, 2018 Comments off

Happy Easter

May the hope and love of Easter be with you throughout the year.

Be the Shoulders of the Younger Generation

March 26th, 2018 Comments off

Isaac Newton once said,”If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants.”

Think back to your youth. Were there people in your life that took an authentic interest in your future, or helped you see both sides of a situation that seemed overwhelming? Maybe a speech, or a family story that sparked a fire inside of you to make a difference in your community?

It is important to recognize that the relationships that pushed you beyond what you could have imaged for yourself are the shoulders of the giants that helped you see further than others. In turn, you now have the opportunity to be the shoulders for the younger generation.

Here are a few ways that you can empower the younger generation and give them the opportunity to see further than those before them.

Listen – While your ideas are valued, it is important to know that listening and truly hearing the ideas of the younger generation is so empowering. It gives them an actual space at the table to share their views and opinions.

Mentor – The vast majority of the younger generation desires to create change in their communities and around the world. They are in need of a supportive counselor who has the ability to push them beyond what they may have imagined they could accomplish. Thus, “passing the torch” and empowering the younger generation.

Be Humble – It is important to know that we cannot always think that our way is the right way. In order to empower the younger generation one must be humble and willing to admit when new ideas are better than our own.

Offer your shoulders to the youth and know that your AgeEsteem will spark empowerment in the youth of today.

Successful Women of Today

March 22nd, 2018 Comments off

Success is easy to define, Merriam-Webster describes it as “a favorable or desired outcome” and “the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence,” but is it defined differently for men and women? Perhaps there are the stereotypical gender lines where women focus on the importance of relationships and feeling valued while men focus more on material success.

It turns out that women are broadening the definition of what it means to be successful and what it means to achieve great things in the world. The adaptation of success may also be a reflection of the fact that they still carry the bulk of the household and family responsibilities.

Are you one of those women that does it all and still feel inadequate? Why? Here are some thoughts as you define what success means to you personally:

  • Understand the price you are paying for your definition of success.
  • Have a clear goal and purpose, recognize that you cannot have it all.
  • Decide what is most important, focus on it and get rid of the guilt.
  • Be mindful that after every hill you climb, a new hill emerges.
  • If all else fails, fake it until you make it.

So, what matters to you personally? Where do you want to be in a year? Two years? Five? How will you achieve your own definition of success? Write your thoughts down while having some much-deserved “me time.” What truly matters to you in your life today?

Here are some ways in which AgeEsteemers have defined success in their lives:

  • Be in the moment, instead of constantly going, going, going.
  • Realize that your contribution to the world is valued, if not by others, by you.
  • Find a healthy balance between a loving home and a career you enjoy.
  • Have people in your life who can always make you smile.
  • Find the good in life’s imperfections.
  • Be proud of yourself.

Let determination, vision and purpose be your superpower to success!

We Can Encourage The Younger Generation

March 19th, 2018 Comments off

What can the older generation do in order to support and encourage the younger generation?

Do you have a favorite recipe that you have perfected for many years? Maybe something that can only be taught in the kitchen, or with a pinch of this and a dash of that. This is a great opportunity to develop highly transferable skills, from hands-on math conversions to staying with a project from beginning to end. Remember, those messy young sous chefs will one day cook entire meals for their family and friends.

Do you carry with you a wealth of childhood stories? With your stories you can give the younger generation an insight into the lifestyle of your childhood. You can teach what books cannot! These stories pass on life lessons that allow the younger generation to become a part of something larger than themselves.

Have you encountered difficult people in your life? Think about how many different types of people you have had to interact with. You have a wealth of experience and know a lot about behavior and manners that the younger generation has not yet acquired. Use your experiences and examples to encourage and support the younger generation with problematic relationships. Teach them techniques to respond instead of react when interacting with impossible people.

Are you a great motivator? Can you move the younger generation from the couch and video games to a more active lifestyle? Be creative! Encourage outside activities such as splashing in muddy puddles, tossing a ball, gardening and the good old fashioned games of tag and hide-and-seek. Give the younger generation a better line of sight on how their actions make a measurable difference in their own happiness.

The energy of the younger generation mixed with the experience of the older generation can do wonders in a society!

I challenge you to take an interest in the younger generation by passing on your AgeEsteem and making a positive difference in the youth of today.

Renaissance Girl

March 15th, 2018 Comments off

At last, I have found a new term to describe many of our modern young girls. – Girls who are much more than beautiful or pretty or cute. It is an expression to replace the plastic face and figure of Barbie with the depth and potential within the uniqueness of these girls.

It began when our ten-year-old granddaughter shared with me her history homework about the Middle Ages. It is an interesting historical period to study because there is the romantic concept of knights and royalty.

I made the comment to her that the Renaissance period will be even more interesting since she is a Renaissance Girl. That tickled her interest. “What is a Renaissance Girl?”, she asked. – And I realized that I had found the perfect term to describe her qualities.

She is a normal preteen. She does not excel in everything. However, she is a versatile, well-rounded person who is active in many different areas. She is fascinated by math, science, history, nature, travel to new places, and devours books and masters technology. She is active in sports, can play a tune on the piano, sing and hip-hop. She also has a good sense of humor and says what she thinks.

Yes, she is a Renaissance Girl!

I wish someone had given me that title as a preteen. You see, Age Esteem begins when you are young. How you see yourself and feel about yourself at each age and stage in life influences how you grow old and even your longevity.

Helping young girls recognize themselves as Renaissance Girls is also good for our age-esteem and health today, because intergenerational relationships keep us up-to-date and relevant, and therefore more vital.

Bonnie Fatio

What influence do you have on the younger generation?

March 12th, 2018 Comments off

Have you put much thought into what it means to be part of an older generation?  One of the largest generations in history that has a wealth of skills and experience. The generation that has pushed their rocking chairs aside to go skydiving, rock climbing and dancing.

So, what influence do you have on the younger generations? Specifically, what role does a Grandfather play in the life of a grandson?

As boys age they transform through different stages:

In the early years they are focused on strong love and security. At this stage, they tend to prefer the natural advantages of their mother, however grandparents can provide unconditional love and create those fundamental connections needed for the future.  

After the age of six, a boy will look around to see how to do “maleness.” The male role models in his life become his focus. At this stage boys need to learn the effects of their own strength and how they can control it.

Beginning at the age of 14 boys search out input from male mentors, other than his father. This is where grandfathers wield incredible influence and offer wise advice with a unique perspective on life.

AgeEsteem shines through the older generation creating a foundation for the younger generation.

A Grandparent’s Role With the Grandkids

March 8th, 2018 Comments off

When a grandparent holds their newborn grand-baby for the first time, there’s an emotional high that’s almost beyond description. The wonder and love felt at that time is forever remembered with a smile.

You feel a new and different kind of love towards this sweet, innocent, warm baby…a new level of love. It’s magical and joyful! Why a different kind of love? You suddenly get this feeling of immortality and the comfort that somehow, some way, a part of YOU will live on through this precious little one.

As a modern-day grandparent what role do you play?

Grandparents have always played an important role in family life; the historian, the mentor, a role model, a friend. However, over the last twenty years, grandparents have had increased responsibility for their grandchildren due to changes in society and a larger number of single parent households. These responsibilities might include activities such as getting young children ready for school in the mornings, providing full-time child care for preschoolers, or serving as a custodial parent. As a grandparent, in this modern-day family, your role is unique and important. You are not just “another babysitter,” but have a fundamental connection with your grand-kids. Make the most of those special days!

Grandchildren bring energy, laughter, optimism, love and purpose to the lives of their grandparents. While grandparents act as an authority figure and provide unconditional love, they also wield incredible influence and get to spoil their grand-kids in a way parents simply can’t.

I encourage you to keep the connection active and alive no matter what the current circumstances may be. Let your imagination go wild, make it a point to send colorful cards or magazine gift subscriptions. Utilize technology and keep that link going through Facetime, Skype or old fashion telephone calls. The bottom line is to keep the constant connection with your grandchildren. Everyone is blessed because of it!

Are we the lucky ones?

March 5th, 2018 Comments off

Take a moment to reflect on the world today; advanced technology, material abundance, limitless growth… it seems clear that the world today is amazing! With the help of technology, people can accomplish their tasks more efficiently and effectively. The adolescents of today have an entire world at their fingertips. They are in constant contact with peers through social digital networks and the media.

Are AgeEsteemers the lucky ones?

Can you recall the days when a neighborhood was a safe place to climb trees, ride bikes or simply play? How about when a vacation was a short drive down the road to a camping spot in the woods. Maybe a time when the whole family ate around the dinner table and everyone enjoyed face-to-face conversations where people were more patient with each other and life seemed to move at a slower pace?

Is the throw-away cycle of today failing both people and the planet? One could argue that healthcare, education and opportunities have certainly improved, however studies show that we are no more satisfied than we were 100 years ago.

So, was life better when it moved at a slower pace? Or not?

Abraham Lincoln once said, “Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”

Would the ability to be fully present in whatever you may be doing, and not allowing your mind to wander to the past or future, make you happy? I challenge you to slow your mind and focus on the now, so that you are able to enjoy more of the simple things in life. One could say that health and happiness are key ingredients to your AgeEsteem.