From your secret admirer
Have you ever received a an anonymous card or thank you note to tell you how much you are appreciated? Has a bouquet of flowers been delivered with no signature, simply the message “From your secret admirer”?
I would agree that it is more fun to know who the person is. - But there is excitement in not knowing. We begin to think about those people we know who might be this admirer. It prompts us to look at people around us differently. Is HE the one? Is SHE the one?
Suddenly we find ourselves deep in thought, remembering what we have done for others that may have spurred this note or gift. We tune in to how people look at us and we listen more closely to the nuances in their speech when we are together. It reminds us of past experiences and kindnesses given and received.
And all of this positive thinking has been sparked by a single note or gift that is not signed.
Sharing love enhances our age-esteem.
A tradition I have tried to keep over the years is to personally create the Valentine’s cards I send. They usually are collages with hearts, feathers and papers of varying textures. Each is a unique labor of love. I send them through the post in an old fashioned handwritten, stamped envelope.
A year ago I declared a Valentine’s Day each week. Once a year seems much too limiting for this positive expression of caring.
I caught this idea from Shirley Pollock who made it her job to send a note to someone each day. Sometimes it was a thank you. Other times she simply said she was thinking about you or hoped you were feeling better. She expressed praise for something you had done or reminded you of one of your qualities that she admired. Her notes were treasured by those who received them. She made every day a Valentine’s Day!
My original goal was to send at least one special note each week. Over past months this has grown. I now write several cards each week to let others know how special they are to me. I find is that focusing on relationships in this way makes positives excel and negatives disappear.
Why not make every day a Valentine’s Day and fill your heart with love?
What a wonderful invention Valentine’s Day is!
It nudges us with encouragement to express love. On the 14th of February we step out of our regular routine to remind friends and family that we love them. They are important to us.
Lacy cards with poems, bouquets of red roses, candies that say Be My Valentine, and heart shaped boxes filled with chocolates are just some of the ways we express our feelings to tell people they’re special.
Letting others know that you are thinking of them and that you care is healthy for your AgeEsteem. You focus on
- People who you love of all ages
- The blessings of friends and family
- Reaching out to others
- Renewing and strengthening contacts
- Creating or finding the right message
- Celebrating happiness
