Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner
Meet New People
Get out and about: Keep active. Plan time in your schedule to meet new people and to attend events.
- You’ve envisioned Partner Right. Where would this person be apt to spend time? Go where this person would go. If you want to find someone with an interest in art, attend shows. If music is important attend concerts, join a choir.
- Mix with others at these events. Commit yourself to speak with three new people at each event. Strike up a conversation and learn about the other people in a group. Be genuinely interested in what they say. Not only will they find you interesting as a result, but others in the room are more apt to notice you. It will also reinforce your confidence and age-esteem.
Body Clock Is Ticking Faster – And Still No Right Partner.
What To Do?
Define “Partner Right”: This is the person you will commit to and who would be the parent of your children. Research your own heart and mind to know what kind of person you want to share your life.
- Seriously think about your own values. What is most important to you? Write these values where you can see them regularly.
- What qualities and values are important for this person to share? You want to share mutual respect with this person and be proud to raise children together. What qualities and values are essential for this?
- Make a vision board to represent Partner Right. Use pictures, words and objects such as an opera ticket or invitation to an event, anything that represents an aspect of the ideal person. The goal is to picture the interests, values and personality as well as any important physical qualities. Keep this vision board where you see it. Add to it, and refer to it regularly. Imprint it in your mind.
Now step out with personal confidence and age-esteem knowing that you and Partner Right will find each other.
What To Do?
So how do you keep your confidence and age-esteem while feeling that age is placing a barrier in front of you? How do you manage to meet the right partner? – The person with whom you can share mutual respect, trust, support, encouragement, laughter and love?
Take your time: Don’t rush. A lasting relationship doesn’t just happen. It develops, and there are stages in that development. Just as a baby needs to turn over, sit and crawl before it can walk, we need to move forward one step at a time. It begins with eye contact, moving into the other’s space, and yes even holding hands. And it happens over a period of time. It’s still good advice to know someone for a year before making a commitment. If this is the right partner, it’s a good investment.
Men’s Body Clock
Men don’t deal with the same biological deadline as women, but it seems they do have a body clock ticking.
New research is showing that men, too, would do better to procreate earlier rather than later. “It seems the fertility clock ticks for men, too,” says the New York Times article by Roni Rabin, Feb. 7, 2007 citing research stating there is an increased frequency of abnormalities in babies born to older fathers.
Men seeking a meaningful relationship are also challenged to find Ms. Right. And it’s no wonder we have difficulty in this society where dysfunctional and superficial relationships are fed to us in programs like Desperate Housewives and The Bachelor.
How to pursue meeting Ms. Right with confidence and age-esteem?
Woman’s Body Clock
Did you ever wake up in the morning just before the alarm should go off and lie in bed waiting, knowing that it would ring yet not quite prepared for the noise when it did?
Somewhere in the mid-30′s we wake up to our body alarm in much the same way. We’ve known it would go off someday, but we’re never really ready for it to ring. It’s often at this point that we become preoccupied with finding the right partner and beginning a family. Did I say preoccupied? Some of us hyperventilate!
As women it’s especially true. Age suddenly seems to be working against us. Our biological clock becomes a fertility time bomb reminding us that our ability to give birth is not eternal. We’re faced with the fact that it’s now or never! But where is Mr. Right?
Every day is a holiday somewhere in our world!
According to EarthCalendar.net the following holidays are being observed today:
Queen’s Name Day, Sweden
Father’s Day, Taiwan
Independence Day, Bhutan
International Day of the World’s Indigenous People, Australia
Peace Day (End of the Iran/Iraq war), Iraq
Peasants’ Day , Tanzania
Universal and International Affinity Day, International
Saint Mary MacKillop Day, Australia
No matter where you are on the globe, these holidays offer an occasion to begin an AgeEsteem inter-generational tradition.
- Choose a holiday for the coming month from a country other than your own.
- Research to discover as much as possible about how that particular holiday is celebrated.
- Find someone from that country to help you if possible.
- With children and friends reproduce that celebration: make costumes and props, cook food associated with that holiday…
- Invite friends of all ages to celebrate the holiday with you.
Show genuine interest in others:
- Become an active listener when speaking with someone. Look them in the eyes and show genuine interest in what they say. Participate actively. Nod your head, repeat a word or two in confirmation. Ask questions. Remain focused on them.
- Keep in mind that everyone is interesting. It is up to you to find how they are interesting.
- Be prepared with conversation starters.
You will be surprised at how much you learn. And you will also be remembered as a great conversationalist whether you actually spoke or not. Most important is that when you are genuinely interested you become more interesting to the other person and it enhances your beauty.
Let your inner essence shine. Show genuine interest in others. Be beautiful you!
Live your values: Does it surprise you to find values at the heart of beauty? Our values are the basis of who we are, our inner essence. Living in harmony with our values is crucial to freeing our inner beauty and enhancing our age-esteem.
- List 20 values that are important to you. What couldn’t you live without? – honesty, money, love, adventure, family, harmony? Prioritize the top 10.
- How are these values present in your life today? Are some absent? Are there conflicts between your job or relationships and your values?
- Plan how to build your values into your life more.
Your inner essence, and therefore your beauty, depends on living in harmony with your values.
Wear clothes, make-up and hair styles that make you feel good. – That give you some pizzazz!
- What colors and styles of clothes make you feel smart and attractive when you step out? These are the ones to wear. Forget the latest fashion or color if it doesn’t fit. Modernize with an accessory in the latest color.
- Play around with your hair and make-up until you find a style that fits you. Get professional help from the artists at the cosmetic counters and salons or test color shampoos and try different looks with your own make-up.
Your goal is to feel attractive and in harmony with who you are. You’ll know what feels right. Emphasize your qualities.
We all have moments when we feel truly beautiful. (Men can feel “beautiful”, too!)
Surprise yourself feeling beautiful:
- Ask yourself why you feel this way. What are the circumstances? Did someone just praise you? Are you doing something you love, wearing your favorite outfit, coming from the hair dresser, with good friends, or on your way to meet someone special?
- Use this knowledge to reproduce that feeling. What is the expression on your face? How are you standing or moving? What are you wearing? Where are you? Who is with you?
- When you want to recapture that special feeling of beauty, flash back to the way you felt when you surprised yourself feeling beautiful. Recreate that feeling as you bring it into the present. Let that “feeling beautiful” state permeate your being.
Has this ever happened to you? Share your experiences with us via the comments.
